7 Rules Of Second Date Etiquette
Most guys will consider the first date to be the most stressful because it’s all about impressing someone new, but did you know that if you blow second date etiquette, you might not see a third date at all?
That’s right, there’s a list of unspoken second date rules that you need to know if you’re going to get the girl – and luckily for you, today they’re being spoken (well, written) out loud.
Pick an exciting second date
One of the unspoken second date etiquette rules is that you need to pick a memorable second date, regardless of what that is. You might decide to try out hiking, hot air ballooning or a picnic on the beach – no matter what it is, you need to make sure it stands out.
This is because the second date is really where you both start to picture your future together. If you plan a dull second date, she’s going to imaging a life filled with dull dating experiences, and no one wants that.
Remember, a memorable date doesn’t have to be an expensive date – there are many cheap ways to plan a dating experience that will stick in her mind for years to come.
- Skip the movies
The second date is all about deepening the intimacy between you two and that’s no possible if you spend it sitting next to each other in complete silence. This is why a movie date is a no-go.
Choose something where you have a nice mix of being able to talk and just experience each other’s company. This might be a visit to a museum or art gallery (if that’s what you’re both into) or even something a little more physical, like canoeing.
If you’re not sure whether you’ll get much time to talk on the second date, make sure you set aside some time to do that. This might be grabbing a quick coffee afterwards or even before the date.
- Keep a girl on her toes
Surprises are a great way to set the stage for an exciting relationship. When it comes to second date etiquette, remember you don’t want to plan something that might be potentially terrifying for your date.
If you don’t know whether you’re date is afraid of heights, don’t go planning a hot air balloon experience.
That doesn’t mean you can’t make a simple date an exciting experience.
Simply tell her to prepare for a surprise date. Remember to tell her what to wear and if she needs to bring anything to increase her comfort (such as a light jacket if you’re going to be outside during a brisk spring evening).
Then let her anticipation grow throughout the day.
- Make your intentions known
You don’t have to give her a Powerpoint presentation on your life plan, but it does help if you can give her an idea about what sort of relationship situation you are looking for. If you’re not looking for anything serious, it’s only fair that you share this.
On the other hand, if you are looking for long term relationship goals, you should let her know that this is what you’re aiming for. This gives her the chance to share her intentions with you.
- Get a feel for the past
You never want to go into the gory details of past relationships on a second date, but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t get a feel for them. A person’s romantic history can tell you a lot about who they are.
If she’s in her forties and never had a serious relationship, that might be a red flag. It doesn’t mean she’s a “no-go”, but it would definitely be worth asking some questions.
- Open up a little more is part of good second date etiquette
By the second date, you’ll want to share how you’re feeling a little more. You might even want to be a little more honest about your feelings for her. Don’t go overboard and propose or anything, but it’s good second date manners to let her know that you’d like to see her again.
The first date might be about mystery, but by the second, you’re looking to start shed a bit more light on your inner workings.
- Have fun
Just because the second date is a little more serious than the first, it doesn’t mean you shouldn’t be having fun. In fact, having fun should be your number 1 priority because this will help her to imagine how great her life will be with you in it.
Don’t let anyone tell you that the second date is less important than the first. Now is certainly not the time to get lazy – in fact, you need to put as much, if not more effort into the second date as you did the first.
If you get this right, you’ll have her eating out of the palm of your hand by the third date.